The gossip world has been a flutter over Lady Gaga’s weight gain. Do her little monsters prefer her better when she’s pissy and skinny?
“The 26-year-old pop star made headlines after photos of her performing in Amsterdam showed her figure looking fuller than it has in the past. The pop star recently told radio host Elvis Duran that she’s gained “like 25 pounds” and is dieting but noted, “I really don’t feel bad about it, not even for a second.””
I can give you half a dozen reasons right off the top of my head about why I think her weight gain in sort of fantastic.
- -She’s in a steady relationship and by all outward appearances it’s going well. Anyone ever heard that saying about how we tend to gain weight when we mate? Sometimes those in great, happy in love pairings out on a few pounds.
Yes, there kind of is an irony in the whole gain weight when you meet your mate business. Ladies and gents alike break their backs to look “on point” to catch a significant other to attach to their arm, but once those laws of attraction have physically pulled them in, looking pretty turns into looking at all the pretty food. A Cornell University study found that newlyweds, during the first two years of marriage, gain more weight on average than single people or widowers or divorcees. Why?
Well, what does make sense to me is that new couples tend to spend a lot of time together, ergo skipping some of their previous single activities (like the gym) Cuddle time vs. gym time? Plus couples tend to use cooking/eating as a shared activity. They share that activity a lot. It’s fun. It’s comfortable. A simple reason folks gain weight when they’re in relationships is because their happy and comfortable their time is spent focusing/enjoying other stuff.
Relationships are the content music is routinely made of, and her catalog of hits has included quite the track listing of love life drama. So if she’s happy right now, its good.
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- -She’s being treated for lupus. Not that lupus is great or anything, but treatment for it has been known to include a bit of weight gain. If gaining weight comes with actively pursuing medical treatment to add to your future quality of life, than by all means, let it happen.
“Lupus (also known as SLE, systemic lupus erythematosus) is an autoimmune disease. It takes on several forms and can affect any part of the body, but is most commonly attacks the skin, joints, heart, lungs, blood, kidneys and brain.
Autoimmune diseases are characterized by a malfunction of the immune system –- one in which the immune system cannot distinguish between the body’s own cells and tissues and foreign matter, like viruses. Rather than simply producing antibodies to attack antigens (viruses, bacteria and similar foreign matter), the immune system creates auto-antibodies that attack the immune system itself.” Source: Here
Lupus is most common in women, especially women in their childbearing years. The cause of lupus is not known.
Half of all patients with lupus have a loss of appetite (anorexia), with resulting weight loss.
Usually noted in the early stages of lupus, anorexia & weight loss are associated with disease activity. Steroids cause weight gain. Source: Here.
- -She’s enjoying something she likes. Food. She’s an Italian gal who likes pasta and cheese and her papa has a restaurant that she hugely supports.
The “Born this Way” singer insisted to radio host Elvis Duran that the pounds came from her dad’s Italian food.
“I love eating pasta and pizza,” says Gaga who admitted to gaining 25 pounds. “I’m a New York Italian girl. That’s why I have been staying out of New York. My father [Joe Germanotta] opened a restaurant. It’s so amazing … it’s so freaking delicious, but I’m telling you I gain five pounds every time I go in there. So my dad wants me to eat at the restaurant, and I’m, like, I’ve got to go where I can drink green juice.”
Considering Gaga been known to tweet comments that ‘pop stars shouldn’t eat’, it’s kind of nice to hear she’s enjoying a tasty food. Not to suggest an endorsement to the over indulging lifestyle (especially regarding food. Moderation, moderation, moderation) but food is good. Our bodies may not need all the particular flavors of crap we put in it, so being mindful of that is relevant, but to look at food as the enemy simply isn’t a way to live!
- -Let’s be honest, a little bit more meat on her bones is cute. She looks more like how she did when she initially came out (back in her “Paparazzi” and “Just Dance” days). I love it when the uber thin ladies bring a little curve to their bodies. When Christina Aguilera’s body flipped the script on what we were used to, it looked great on her. The only problem I’ve ever seen is that sometimes she dresses herself as she was a different size. Even a size 4 woman is gonna look chubby when you attempt to squeeze her into a double 00! Many of the images posted of Lady Gaga “busting” out of her clothes is simply an effect of them not fitting her exactly how they did before. Retailor those puppies and I bet her added pounds wouldn’t have created so much chatter. When clothes fit properly, no matter what the number size is, people tend to look great. Be healthy and dress correctly.
“My boyfriend prefers me curvier,” she written. “When I eat and am healthy and not so worried about my looks.”
- -She’s a perfectionist who’s admitted to struggling with anorexia and bulimia since she was 15. She’s trying to love herself.
Doctor Nancy Zucker wrote in her Eating Disorders Today article, “The Many Faces of Perfectionism” that several, divergent effects speak to the complexity of perfectionism, a characteristic often attributed to individuals with eating disorders.
What do we mean by the term perfectionism? Although some experts define it in such simple terms as a “striving for flawlessness” (Flett and Hewitt 2002). Perfectionism is usually derived from a variety of sources and it is most likely a combination of these sources that leads to its development. For example, if your life felt chaotic, you might feel safer by forming rules for yourself. In this case, rigid rules, the essence of negative perfectionism, would be reinforcing (Flett, Hewitt et al. 2002).
Perfectionism can take either a healthy or a destructive form. Individuals who exhibit its more healthy form set and work towards realistic goals. These goals take into account the person’s strengths, desires, and current physical, emotional and mental states. Although failure to achieve a goal is met with disappointment, the experience does not threaten their identity or confidence. In this way, goals are modifiable based on feedback. Thus, when a “healthy perfectionist” who wants to get “all A’s” in school gets a “B,” they might be disappointed, but will use the experience as an opportunity for learning.
In contrast, individuals with the negative form of perfectionism exhibit the opposite characteristics. Goals are extreme, rigid, and inflexible. Rather than taking individual preferences and strengths into consideration, “negative perfectionists” often set goals according to external standards or impossible internal standards. When these goals are not achieved, the individual’s sense of identity is threatened and they feel like a failure. As a result of getting a “B” grade in school, their self-talk might be, “I failed on this test, therefore, I am a failure.” One of the critical elements of this state, then, is forming rigid standards of performance that do not consider or adapt to the individual as a person.
Now take these quotes into consideration…
“Gaga admits to being a perfectionist when it comes to her elaborate shows”…”she struggles with such strong bouts of perfectionism she finds it almost impossible to be satisfied with the final” … “but Lady Gaga is nothing if not a perfectionist and her gamble pays off on this” … “She has a reputation as a perfectionist, with her eye on every little detail”… “The book, reveals Gaga as being the contrary of what she’d like audiences to see: she’s lonely, she’s isolated and insecure but, at the same time, she’s a perfectionist who’d do anything to get things done.” … “By anything, Gaga also understands starving herself for weeks at a time just to make sure she fits her outrageous stage costumes or the outlandish outfits she even wears on public outings.”
Recently she posted a picture of herself on her official fan site, eyes closed, with the caption: “Bulimia and anorexia since I was 15.”
Can we give her a round of applause for even just admitting that?! Admittance of a problem is a big thing. It’s huge in terms of launching the effective correction and healing process. That takes guts. She doesn’t owe anyone an explanation; she didn’t need to share a private struggle. But she did, and it’s going to be inspiring and beneficial to others to simply hear her reveal it. This talented songstress who has become an outspoken beacon in helping outsiders feel like insiders, and has shouted from the rooftops to people to love themselves regardless of all the mess and crap that other do and will say. To be strong and believe in themselves, and meanwhile she’s still struggling with an eating disorder demon that will always plague her. You can’t cure someone with an eating disorder, just like you can’t “cure” and alcoholic. On a daily basis they have to address it in their lives and be mindful and aware of their actions. Admittance opens the door to accountability, and now she’s thrown that door open to the world! She doesn’t have to be perfect.
-This brings me to my last point, in a beautiful showing of addressing her fans, not the critics; she’s like look at me. She posted pictures in full un-retouched, underwear clad glory and has launched what she’s calling the Body Revolution. And she’s invited her fans, who she treats like friends to embrace their bodies in ways that suggest the word “flaw” to not an acceptable adjective anymore.
I enjoy her music, I don’t proclaim any alliance to her whole, “little monsters” description, but I put my “paws up” as they call it, and practically shed tears as men and women of all ages, races, and sizes posted pictures of themselves and bared their physical insecurities in unity and bravery.
It was beautiful.
We’re talking people former cutters showing their scars, survivors of life taking illnesses embarrassed by marks on their bodies showcasing past (successful!!) surgeries, mothers with stretch marks and C-section lines, teens with skin disorders that cause them to hide from nosy insensitive prying eyes, men with concaved chests, women without mainstream attractive bodies (or whatever that means!) members of each gender standing up and saying this is my body type—AND WHAT?!
All of these people looking at her example of bravery and turning themselves into examples in the process.
Oh it was so beautifully fantastic.
Acceptance of oneself means many things. You can be proud to be gay and still ashamed of how you look. You can be a confident in the workplace woman and terrified at the same time that your personality won’t secure you a love mate. You could embrace your racial heritage from the hills and yet cry yourself to sleep at night because you attend a church where you feel judged and hurt, have come to believe that no God could love you…and you’re not a good enough person.
Lady Gaga gained weight. Yep. She readily admits it herself. Only her scale knows exactly how much (can’t trust potentially doctored images that go with snarky articles).
The thing is, when Lady Gaga does something, she doesn’t just do one thing, it doesn’t come from one cause/place/source of inspiration, and it doesn’t just have one effect. And know this, that if she chooses to get back in the gym and lose the weight, or if she doesn’t, it has nothing to do with anyone else but herself. She’s Lady Gaga, not you.
Get yourself in a flutter over that.
- Lady Gaga Admits to Weight Gain but Scolds Critics on Social Media (fox4kc.com)
- Lady Gaga won’t hide weight gain (contactmusic.com)